Learning that you are expecting may be exciting for some, but when you are totally unprepared for a new addition, unexpectedly learning you are pregnant can be a scary situation. Thankfully, placing a baby for adoption is much easier now than it has ever been before, so this is always an option you have as an expecting mother. Even though adoption is often the most preferred choice, placing your baby up for adoption can also bring along some big questions. Here are a few of those questions and the answers you will want to know as a birthmother.
Can you help choose the adoptive parents?
When you make the decision to place your baby for adoption, you will have the choice to work with an adoption counselor to pick prospective parents if you choose. This is often a part of the semi-open adoption process. While this is not a requirement on your part, it can be more emotionally reassuring for you through the adoption process if you have a hand in picking the right set of parents for your child. If you prefer to stay completely anonymous, the whole selection process can be confidential and you will never have to actually meet the parents, just view their file.
What is an open adoption?
An open adoption is an adoption in which you still have communication with the adoptive parents as the child grows. The degree of openness of an adoption will depend on what the adoptive parents will agree to. For example, some adoptive parents may be comfortable with occasional visits with the child, while others may not. All of the details in an open adoption are worked out between you and the adoptive parents before the parents take full custody of the child, usually while you are still pregnant.
Do you have to give your baby up as soon as it is born?
In most cases, the actual adoption does take place soon after the baby is born. If the adoption is completely open, the adoptive parents may even be with you during labor and delivery if you choose it to be that way. Waiting several days after the baby is born for the adoptive parents to take over guardianship can make it more difficult for you to place the baby for adoption. You will be given some time with your baby, however, depending on your wishes. While some mothers prefer not to see the baby at all before the adoption, many do want a little time with their newborn.
To learn more about placing your baby for adoption, contact a company like A Child's Dream.